Terms of Endearment 

A term of endearment is a word or phrase used to address or describe a person for which the speaker feels love or affection. There are some fairly creative terms that couples have crafted for each other over the years but there are a few classics that we might all know. “Baby”, “Honey, Hon or Hun”, “Sweetheart”, “Sugar”, “Beautiful”, “Angel”, the list could go on. Maybe you’re a little more adventurous and you describe your significant other with phrases like “a tall drink of water”, “my heart and soul”, my better half” or “my soul mate”. If your looking for something fresh here are some ideas from the book of Love, Song of Solomon”.

“I liken you, my darling, to a mare among pharaoh’s chariot horses”. “Your eyes are doves”. “Like a Lilly among thorns”. “My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag”. “Your hair is like a flock of goats”. “Your temples like the halves of pomegranate”.“You are a garden fountain”. “Your navel is a rounded goblet”. “Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon”.  

The words found in the book of Songs of Solomon are the exchange of terms of endearment between that of a man and a women, a young couple, a husband and wife who are clearly in love with each other. There is passion, excitement, romance, emotion, and joy found in these words as the characters playfully banter back and forth. Although these terms may not cross cultures and time we can still learn from them today, we can be inspired by the level of passion and commitment that is being expressed in their relationship. Why are these songs or poems included in the Bible? What purpose do they play? To me they are words of inspiration. They are examples and reminders of the passion and excitement that should be a part of our intimate marriage relationships. These words reflect God’s passion and design for a vibrant marriage relationship and in many ways mirrors the love that he has for us. We were created in His image, an image of beauty and excellence that should shine through each and every one of our lives. I’m not an expert in relationships but I have enough experience that I would suggest you stay away from references to mare’s, goats and pomegranates in your next romantic interlude with your spouse.  

Living in a Fog



A dense fog has the ability to obscure our visibility when walking down the sidewalk or driving down a road. We can become disoriented in the fog, losing track of where we are. Our sense of sight becomes secondary to our senses of hearing and touch.  Sometimes as I write these blogs my mind enters into a “fog” of sorts, it is a strange mental moment that obscures and confuses my thought processes. Being in the fog often slows us down, making us pay closer attention to the things around us as we can’t see the details.

My next few blogs will be focusing on the nature of God’s family and the function of earthly families as I read through and reflect on what God’s word says about both. The Song of Songs records a very descriptive narrative focused on love and passion between a bridegroom and his bride. The love notes or poems point us to the bigger story of the bond of marriage between a man and a woman as it was intended through the eyes of our Lord. When we allow ourselves to enter into the text and read it through the lens of understanding family and relationship, it suggests – through comparison for the most part – that today we have walked into a fog of misunderstanding and obscurity around the truth of genuine love and relationship.

Our society today has a distorted view of marriage and love from those first perfect relationships that started in the Garden of Eden. (God and man and man and wife) We talk about walking with God today but not in the same sense that Adam and Eve did in the beginning. This fog we are in now is nothing new as it too eventually clouded those first perfect relationships. Reading through the book of Songs by Solomon give us a hope for a return to this perfect union, it shines a light on the depth of love is found in the union of marriage (the cornerstone of a healthy family). Solomon’s words, inspired by God are a reflection of love that our creator has for all of us. We pray for the revival of faith in God, through that I also pray that our growing faith and understanding in our relationship with Him will lift the fog that set us back on the road of true biblical relationship with each other.